Ask any discern of a teenager and they may be going day-to-day you that sometimes it is day-to-day daily make sure everything is achieved on a foundation. our youngsters need everyday be safe, and we don't forget that everyday be a priority but we additionally need every day make sure that they may be healthy and glad as well. this would occasionally require that we provide the guidance that our youngsters need, specifically on the subject of how they appearance, stay and act. Julie Venn had such an enjoy and the tale is now viral.
Julie has two children and she works as a personal daily. Riley, her daughter changed into taken in for an annual checkup and some thing sudden day-to-day. As a 13-yr-antique woman, Riley is cared for through her mom in day-to-day type manner. possibly this is why the mom changed into amazed while she heard the nurse say everyday her daughter: "tell me Riley, how can you explain all of this weight you’ve gained?”
As you may imagine, that announcement is virtually out of line and it's far inappropriate in a scientific putting. it is in particular beside the point as it was said everyday a 13-year-old girl.
The mother didn’t hesitate. She stepped in and helped her daughter and since it changed into posted on fb, it has long past viral.
She wrote:
"This week I took my 13 year old daughter to get her physical. As we entered the examination room I was excited to see how tall Riley would be as this year she has grown a ton! The coach in me has loved seeing her strength and size finally come along and the mom in me has loved watching this beautiful young girl begin to become a young woman.
Enter first physicians assistant to take her vitals. Height, weight and blood pressure.
She jots them down and leaves the room. Enter Nurse Practitioner. She begins by asking many questions- whats your bedtime? How much exercise do you get? Are you involved in sports? Do you get enough dairy in your diet? She asks her multiple times- anything else going on I should know about? Riley is friendly and answers all honestly and openly. She explains she will play two sports soon-softball in the fall and basketball in the winter. She tells her she goes to bed around 10:30pm and doesnt have trouble sleeping. The NP presses her little on the sports participation sort of insinuating she will have trouble balancing that with school but Riley seems unaffected.
She then asks her- How was school for you this last year? Riley again with complete honesty says- It was actually very difficult for me. There was a lot of drama and I struggled. The NP says that is pretty typical for 7th grade and moves on. She asks about getting her period and if it is regular. Riley explains she has gotten it but it has not been with regularity yet. The NP then looks down at her computer, then back up at Riley’s face and says to my 13 year old daughter- Tell me RILEY, HOW CAN YOU EXPLAIN ALL OF THIS WEIGHT YOU’VE GAINED? My daughter is speechless and her eyes begin to glass over. I am speechless and the NP goes on to explain to her that given what her previous weight was last year- the numbers just dont correlate with her current height. Has she been eating junk food or has her activity level changed. I LOST MY MIND. I had a literal, physical reaction. I put my hand up and said STOP! You need to stop talking to my daughter about her weight. She is 13, she is strong. She is healthy and she is PERFECT. You need to move on! NP seems surprised at my reaction and doesnt say much. She continues with her exam. As she finishes she asks me to follow her because she has a question to ask me. I follow her into an adjoining room out of earshot of my daughter and she asks me why I had that reaction to her.
I explained in no uncertain terms that she was out of line in the way she dealt with my daughter. Our girls need to be empowered and supported and celebrated. They already have to compare themselves to the ridiculous social media bullshit standards. They are flooded with images of perfection via tv, youtube, FB, Instagram and Snapchat. Their whole freaking lives have a filter on them!! I hammer home the importance of eating healthy, exercising and of course sports because we are sporty people but my god! Kids eat junk food! Kids sit around watching Netflix! Kids get heavier, lighter, taller, wider! ITS NORMAL! Our young ladies need a break! If my child has a problem or is OVERWEIGHT than a doctor needs to talk to ME- not my daughter. This NP actually went on to defend herself by saying she tells the kids because they have control over their food and exercise. My response – LAST I CHECKED MAAM I DO THE GROCERY SHOPPING and the meal preparation and the extracurricular scheduling for my children.
Shes 13! She responded that some kids have their own pocket money and use it for junk. WTF. SO- we left the office and wont be back. The reason I am sharing this is because it is dangerous. Rileys response when we left was Mom, this is why kids have anorexia or feel like they want to hurt themselves. She is exactly right!
Hey NP! Heres what you COULD have said to my daughter and all of the beautiful young ladies you impact-
Hey kiddo. Let me tell you how exciting this time of your life is. I see you have started to grow into being a strong young woman and that is awesome! Know that some girls gain weight, some lose weight, some struggle with acne, some feel insecure but remember this- YOU ARE PERFECT just the way you are. As you mature you will be responsible for more things that pertain to your body- hygiene, activity, menstruation, exercise and healthy eating. This is just the beginning of a long, confusing, sometimes scary road to becoming a woman but it is worth it!”
Well said, mom!
