# She Refused to Pay for Dinner One More Time—Then He Accused Her of Abandoning His Kids
For nine months, a 32-year-old woman had been dating a 39-year-old man with two young children. Things were going reasonably well—until she noticed a recurring pattern every time they went out to eat.
His kids loved restaurants, so the couple made weekly dinners a tradition. But almost without fail, her boyfriend would "forget” his wallet at home. And almost without fail, she would end up covering the bill.
At first, she didn’t think much of it. But after several expensive meals in a single month, she began to feel the financial strain. Her patience wore thin.
One evening, anticipating yet another forgotten wallet, she texted him before leaving home. *Please don’t forget your wallet tonight.* He laughed it off.
At the restaurant, the children ordered freely from the menu. Before the food arrived, she looked at him and asked directly if he had his wallet this time. He patted his pockets, then gave her a sheepish look.
"I think I left it in my other jeans,” he said. Then he asked her to pay.
That was the moment she’d had enough.
Quietly, she gathered her things and stood up. When he demanded to know what she was doing, she told him she was done footing the bill for him and his children every single time. Then she walked out.
Later, he called, furious. He accused her of abandoning them. She explained that it wasn’t fair for her to constantly be the one paying. He shot back that it was just a forgotten wallet—and that she clearly had no compassion. He said he’d had to cancel the order and take the kids home hungry because he had no money to pay.
He told her she needed to rethink how she treated his children, calling her selfish for leaving them without dinner.
Unsure if she had overreacted—especially in front of the kids—she shared her story on Reddit. The response was swift and nearly unanimous.
Commenters saw the pattern clearly. "Forgetting once is an accident,” one wrote. "Twice is a coincidence. Dozens of times is a strategy.” Another put it bluntly: "You’re not his girlfriend. You’re his credit card.”
Others noted that if it were truly an honest mistake, he would have offered to pay her back—but he never did.
The verdict was clear: she wasn’t the problem. But the relationship likely was.
